‘Every master was once a disaster’Mastering your Self-Sabotage

Everyone has another chance at getting their life right, sometimes you get several, some people only one.  As long as you keep moving beyond your fears, limitations and someone else’s negative expectations is all that counts to your soul.  To find the way home, back on your soul path living and sharing your soul purpose and mission.

In today’s blog, I want to acknowledge how far you each have travelled and overcome in your life in order to make the commitments to your own transformation and soul growth.

The first step is uncovering and understanding our human tendency and nature to sabotage (punish) ourselves is at the heart of the work that I do. As we come to understand the mechanisms and patterns that underlie self-sabotage, we begin to free ourselves…we begin to allow ourselves to interact with ourselves and the world with greater success, joy, and fulfillment. Overcoming self-sabotage and finding the wisdom inside the wounds you’ve endured is one of the most important conversations you’ll ever have with yourself. Honour it and know that it will change your life.

We also understand that resistance and doubt in the form of fears naturally come up when we’re taking the steps to release the past and to step into a new level of consciousness. When we are aware of it, we can choose to follow or change it. There will be times when your thoughts might sound something like this: “I’m not getting it. It’s too hard.” Or, “I’m not getting any answers.” At these moments, you need to trust the process and definitely have a coach beside you, one that has pioneered their own road and journey, not just read about it. Just learning take a slow, deep breath is one of the greatest tools you have and will help you when your anxiety is temporarily stronger than your will.

Anxiety shows up when you are getting too close to the doorway opening or too close to the fire. Which is not true, that’s the ego, protector, controller with the wrong rules, it has to keep you safe, small, protected to keep you alive and surviving? (See the lie already, this is what you are fighting within your mind?)

I want you to know that overcoming self-sabotage is one of the most exciting conversations you will ever have, because on the other side of it is the emotional freedom, personal power and depth of joy that you were born to have. And the process of breaking through denial, facing your fear, anger, and other difficult emotions, and making peace with your pain is going to lead – step by step – to an ending of the internal war with yourself so that you can step fully into the greatest expression of yourself.

During this journey to overcome self-sabotage, you may experience a wide variety of emotions in the process of doing your inner work or while engaging in the homework you need to do.

  • Do you make a little progress toward your goals and objectives, only to backslide again into old, non-serving behaviours?
  • Are you perplexed by how frequently you get off track and wonder, out of sheer exasperation, why? If you are not moving steadily in the direction of what you say you want, you can be certain that you are sabotaging yourself and out of alignment somewhere.

Whatever form it takes, whether unhealthy behaviours or limiting thought patterns, self-sabotage always diminishes the passion and energy we need to fulfil our dreams. Self-sabotage is the outer manifestation of our inner feelings of shame, anger and unworthiness. At the heart of the matter, we only create as much love, fulfilment, success and joy as we feel worthy of having.

To make radical progress toward that which you want, it is essential to identify how your inner saboteur is operating in your life. Perhaps it’s your finances, or maybe it’s in the area of your health or relationships. Ask yourself, “What do I get out of not thriving in this area?” (We are always getting something out of it). Propelled by negative beliefs and definitions about yourself, you may discover that you don’t expect to succeed in this area. So ultimately, you get to be right about yourself! And most of us will do anything to prove that we are right (ego-driven is always right even if it is the wrong rules) even if it means robbing ourselves of our dreams (all automatically and unconsciously).

If you need help to overcome and better understand your own self-sabotage, book a Discovery Call with me today https://www.innerchildharmonycoaching.com.au/online-bookings/

A New Moon in Aquarius will bless us on Tuesday, February 1st.

Aquarius is the sign of freedom, the future and breakthroughs. Aquarius likes to go out of bounds, cover new ground, focus on the future and leave old paradigms behind.

And being on a New Moon guarantees exciting new beginnings is an added bonus.

Also active during the New Moon:

  • Venus retrograde – all things Love, self & others
  • Mercury retrograde – all things communication

This is a highly positive and stimulating energy, where you will be beautifully supported to embrace surprising new directions.

Please join me for the New Moon ceremony, click the link to pay and join me with your New Moon wishes you want to manifest.  You will then receive the zoom link and homework.

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